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Those words they are just words, they can’t harm. Spoken with NO meaning. Truly? Why then were they uttered? Words don’t leave a bruise or bloody nose, so how can they mean anything – oh they are only words spoken in the heat of the moment. They are only words uttered in jest. They are only words used to try and be ‘’funny’’. Words can and do hurt more than a physical blow. The physical…
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There are thousands upon thousands of men, women and children who are afraid to speak out about their abuse for various reasons. That fear is real and all encompassing. The adults fear is that their friends and families will turn against them. It is a definite possibility because they will not understand that the silence of abuse is in fact aiding and abetting the actions of the perpetrator. And many adults fear the loss of…
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Self-worth is the reflection of a person’s overall subjective emotional evaluation of his/her own self-worth. It is the judgemental attitude toward oneself. An encompassing belief of oneself as well as taken from an emotive state of mind. Psychologists regard self-worth as an enduring personality characteristic or trait. Experiences in one’s life play an active role in self-worth development. The early years of childhood have a significant influence on how we relate to our own worth…
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That is what is termed low self-worth or self-esteem. This determines the choices you make in your life. It is or reflects what you feel you are able and capable of doing. If you therefore have low self-worth, you do not feel you are or have a meaningful existence or role to play in the world. You will feel that you are inferior in all aspects of your life, no matter your education or lack…
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Is it reasonable to hold a parent accountable when referring to any form of abuse? Yes - you as a child or an adult can and should hold a parent responsible. There is NO excuse that enables the custodian of a young child or adult not to be responsible. There are so many adults who grapple with this question of holding a parent or parents responsible. We are taught from a very young age that…
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In 1990, 416 million people suffered from depression or anxiety worldwide - these numbers rose to 615 million in 2013 (World Health Organisation, 2016). These are staggering figures, and many are not even recorded as people still fear the stigma attached to having any form of mental health issues. Far too often the term ''mental health'' is in my opinion incorrect as issues being faced can be dealt with, without consuming chemical substances. There are…
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You will be aware that from the standpoint where abuse or bullying is concerned it is that the abuser wishes to show POWER. And this is correct, they do. Have you however, asked the reason for the importance of this position of power? Why it’s felt that they need to prove a distinct point? What I have found to date is: It stems from fear. Now the victim in any form of abuse or bullying…
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19 September, 2016
At times fear is all consuming, at other times you are able to push it to the back of your mind, neatly boxed and sealed up. Yet, even if you are successful in boxing it up for the time being it has this very nasty habit of re-emerging or surfacing by silently creeping out of that box. Setting you back and having you holding on to your ‘’sanity’’ for dear life. Those are the times…
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You are beyond frustrated and of course understandably so. Your dreams seem to be in shreds at your feet. The anger which you once thought was norm to your being seems to be destroying everything you hold dear. No matter how you try and ''evolve'' from this you get dragged back in time and again. And now, now you need to acknowledge that you are making one mess after another. The question is of course…
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