29 June, 2017

Challenges are faced every single day of our lives.  Challenges are there to make us stronger, or so the saying goes.

However, our challenges in daily life so often stem from issues faced and not dealt with during our childhood and growing up years.

As a life coach, I have seen this often, and we have not come to grasp what we do to the young, what our own actions cause and how we are responsible for their well-being on every single level possible.  Till they can take the reins of their lives into their own hands.

Too often we say things perhaps inadvertently to a child and we are oblivious to the scars we create.  Or we ignore threats that they are exposed to because it may suit our lifestyle at that given moment in time.  I have said this before, but it is prudent to say it again.  As parents, we need to be held responsible for our deeds, words and actions.  We can make or break that which is most fragile.  As the parent, we have the choice as to how we interact with our child/ren.  The parent has the responsibility of creating a child’s life filled with security and security has nothing to do with the amount of money you earn or give your child.  Not inflicting them with a life where they feel they are worthless, where they fear or where they are taught that anger and bullying are the only methods available to secure some form of respect in this world.  And yes, children do need to be respected.

These wounds created in childhood will play out in various areas of their lives, creating a ripple effect.  And those are the wounds and hurts that I as a life coach together with the client will heal.

There is absolutely NO sense of adding a plaster on the wound in the hope it will heal.  I believe that to truly move forward, the old wound needs to be opened sufficiently to feel or understand the raw emotion of that moment from the past and then cleanse it so that it can heal completely – the scar will then be a reminder as to what took place without it having a hold over the future that the person walks into.

As humans, we are phenomenal at boxing events and storing them somewhere in the recesses of our brains.  And when something from that box should fall out we are amazed that the pain from that event has such an all-encompassing effect on our well-being.

Therefore, to overcome the fears, self-worth issues, anger and abuse in any form, you need to be prepared to work at it, namely at yourself.  There is unfortunately no quick fix or pill that can be swallowed to remove that which was but the work is well worth the effort eventually.

~Life Coach With T~